“Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness. Love is a vessel that contains both security and adventure, and commitment offers one of the great luxuries of life: time. Marriage is not the end of romance, it is the beginning.”
- Ester Perel
MARRIAGE & RELATIONSHIP
I offer a personalised, professional, open space for couples to navigate their personal realities with one another in a safe and supportive environment. I see couples individually first and then together, working with core issues around expectations (emotional, physical, mental and spiritual) within the partnership.
I utilise connected breathwork and relaxation techniques together with Imago Therapy based tools to gain deeper understanding, improve communication and gain insights of dysfunctional behaviour and patterning within the relationship. Together we work on clearing misunderstandings, reducing conflict and rediscover new ways to bond and rebuild close connection.
When we stop believing in the notion of the ‘ideal’ partnership, we realise the unrealistic expectations we bestow upon our partners to be everything. We cannot find everything in one person, this is impossible, therefore we spend our entire lives searching for the ‘magical other’ (as Dr. James Hollis terms it) which doesn’t exist and then, we spend our entire relationships disappointed, disjointed and lost, always searching for our way ‘home’, always seeking the other to ‘save us’ from ourselves. This kind of ideal can be so destructive in our romantic relationships. Once we start unpacking what that union actually is and means, irrespective of the ideal idea of love, relationships become autonomous, real and we find separation and individuation within the bond. That’s when re-lating really starts to work and becomes a powerful bond of trust and dreams realised.
Relationship work fascinates me because I truly believe we find ourselves in the mirror of the other and, the reflection of our ‘dis-ease’ within ourselves, usually manifests in our relationships with our partners, lovers, children, parents or colleagues.